Last week Thursday, a Lagos based lawyer, Udeme Odibi was reported to have stabbed her husband to death and cut off his private part.
Shortly before then, we gathered that they had a disagreement in which the woman threatened to kill him. I guess the man knew his wife very well so he was said to have put a call through to his neighbor, younger sister and his mother about the threat. For me, this is the high point in this case.
I discovered that we are just too careful with ourselves to the point that we have lost touch with realities on one another. When late Otike called those people, what did they do? Oh, they just advised him to take things easy, let God take control and go to bed right? Did they step into the matter? Did they call the wife to calm her down? Did they ask the man to leave the house by all means? Did someone drive in to come pick the guy at all cost? Did someone call someone that knows someone who could prevail on the wife? Did anyone just raise an alarm? So many questions…..
Many times, people need a shoulder to lean on but they are being denied because we are just too engrossed with our lives. So many folks need someone they could be careless and vulnerable with but are nowhere to be found because we assumed folks have everything in shape. Many times, people come to us with teary eyes but we are so consumed with our "little issues" that we hardly notice.
A lot of high blood pressure cases could have been averted but we are too busy to give or family members, friends, colleagues, neighbours etc the opportunity to let out what they have bottled up for long. We just mind our business and do our thing in as much as we are okay, no other thing matters.
When next you notice that lovely married guy in your space getting unnecessarily withdrawn, please trespass and ask him questions. Even though you stand the risk of being ignored or rejected, play your part first. When next you see that married lady coming close to you in a manner that wasn't her lifestyle, pause and give her attention, it won’t land you on hospital bed.
The next time you receive a distressed call from anyone, don't treat it with levity. dont assume he'll be fine. go out of your way to do something. If you can't do anything, cry out on his behalf. It is better for you to be annoyingly sensitive and cry out for help on behalf of such rather than keep things till he dies. When next you have a thought about someone, don't procrastinate, it could be your instinct telling you something. Please visit, call, text, e-mail or chat to know how he or she is doing.
I know we all have our individual issues we are battling with but then, we will always have issues and if we go by that, we won't do anything for each other! with this attitude, a lot of untimely deaths could be obstructed.