5 Types of Men Every Serious Minded Lady should be wary of

In marriage and in life generally, there is no perfect individual. We are just trying to improve on ourselves and get upgraded from where we are so that we could be better people for ourselves, families and the nation. Where I am strong, you could be weak and on the other way round, you could be strong where I am weak so we try to mop things up. However, does that mean when it comes to marriage, just anybody can cling to you? Despite the fact that we all have our flaws, I still believe that there are still some people you have to be wary of, depending on you, you might just need to bid them “do have a great day!”

The first type of guy every serious lady should beware of is the guy that has got no iota of respect for his parents, especially his mother. If he treats his mother like a piece of wood, definitely he doesn’t value womanhood and no matter how you try to please such a guy, to him, women are the same so it will still bounce on you. When you spot men like that, if you can, please, distance yourself from them. There is no way a guy that shouts on his mother or constantly talks her down will respect you as his wife...it doesn’t happen! Such a man will shout at you and insult you in the public over any little mistake you make.

If he doesn't value his parents altogether, it means he doesn’t value the family system and he won't be a good husband to you and a good father to your children let alone a good role model. These are the kind of men that you spend the whole of your marital life labouring on so that they can get things done in the right perspective. They don’t get to fulfill their family obligations like feeding allowance and the kids' education is not a priority to them. They are no good listeners and as far as they are concerned, the family is a secondary and a by the way institution. They don't feel they are accountable to their wives and children neither do they think they have any need to leave a legacy for their children. Though quite a number of them do place their children above their wives as a matter of importance. They are really not far from the generation bible described in Proverbs 30 vs. 11 "There is a generation that curseth their fathers and doth not bless their mothers."

Secondly, if a guy is found to be sexually promiscuous, beware! You know them when you see them because they keep pestering you for sex, they threaten to go out and have sex with other ladies should you refuse them and they are actually doing it. They avoid you and keep malice with you for days should you decline their sexual advances because they are angry, some even batter you because of that. Some of them, have records of sexual escapades with ladies all around the corners and you know it.......their hands are never clean because there must be something controversial with them per time in terms of cheating. 

Hey! I'm not talking about a situation where the guy is just tempted to ask for sex from you neither am I talking about a situation where he is just having a natural urge to have sex which is normal with every guy but I am analysing a situation whereby the guy's appetite for sex is out of control. When he wants sex, he wants it even by all means! It's a habit that needs to be broken from him. From such beware because they don’t give it up in a jiffy.

Why are you being asked to beware of such men? After all God created sex and sex in marriage will curb his excesses after marriage……..so you think! Please get this clear; marriage doesn’t take away infidelity from a man that is used to doing so because if a man doesn't master his sexual urge before marriage, as good as marriage is, marriage won't confine him! It's going to be a great issue for any man in marriage who didn’t deal with the fundamental issue of self control before marriage. Marriage doesn’t stop you. Such men in marriage will eventually cheat on you. They have voracious appetite that could be difficult for you as a lady to meet up with. In marriage, there will be times you may not be able to surrender your body and even if you do, what happens when he is out of town or you have to be out of town…..he grabs the house help or your sister staying with you? What happens when you take in and the doctor says no sex for you till the end of your 2nd trimester because of the safety of the baby……he goes out to sleep with one of his colleagues in the office? What happens to him when you put to bed and you are not ready for sex the first 8 weeks of delivery….he goes to the brothel to satisfy himself?

Even in marriage, there is no absolute freedom of sex so if he can't deal with it now before marriage, definitely, he won't be able to handle it in marriage! So think twice!

 Furthermore, every serious minded lady should beware of guys that are just nice to you alone! This is a very important and sensitive element to really give a serious consideration to by the time you discover an attitude in him. Why should a guy be interested in you alone and be nice to you alone? Why would he only take delight in helping only you but when others come for help, he gives excuses and even turns them down? Looking critically into the lives of such people, they are likely to be greedy, self-centred and generally lack interest in people. 

I think men in this category only love on conditional basis. When you please them, they love you, when you don’t, they don’t in return. When you fall short of their expectations and do what they don’t like, you don’t earn their love for that period. They really don’t understand what love is all about. Such men are who bible asked this question that what benefit they get when they do well to only those who do well to them. Let me not fail to mention to you that such guys are in your life primarily for what they can derive.

Another class of men in this category is the type with no focus and vision in life. When God created man and wanted to give him a companion, he said it is not good for a man to be alone; I will make him a helper, suitable for his needs. This, in another translation is called “help meet”. Now, the question is that what would you be doing when in the actual sense the guy you are expected to help doesn't even know he needs a helping hand? Then you have become a pain in his neck and a liability to him. If you are on a standby, available to give a helping hand and the guy says he has got nothing at hand to require anybody's help, You have got no choice other than to sit down and be enjoying or at least be distracted by another thing not carved out for you originally by way of destiny fulfilment.

Whether every man likes it or not, there is something in every man that requires a touch only from the wife. It's a different thing if they don't know but they do have it. And inside of this assignment otherwise known as focus or vision lies the woman's own fulfillment and throne in life. The analysis is so simple, because you are configured to provide help to someone in his core assignment, there lies your own fulfillment in return. If the guy doesn't provide you with the substance (i.e. the vision) for your own input, it's a mere waste of time.

This is very important because bible says where there is no vision, the people perish. Are you ready to perish with any guy for his lack of vision?

The last type of guy every lady should be wary of is the guy that is not matured. When a guy is not matured, he sees things differently and his approach to life is somewhat odd. When a guy comes into your life, the most important and crucial job he has to do is to build up your self esteem and prove himself to you that he is capable of making you a better person by giving you a sense of security. However, an immature mind lacks the wherewithal of achieving these. He sees women as not really important, necessary evil. Such a man lacks self control, never courageous to own up when he messes up, can't say sorry but rather avoid you or keep malice with you.

When there is a misunderstanding, he seldom has control over his emotion. If he doesn't beat you up, he would have used very strong words to wound your soul. He is unnecessarily possessive of you due to his low self esteem. He questions every of your telephone conversations and is never comfortable with every male figure he sees around you.

I don’t care, he must have left the university with first class, he could be 37 years old and even one of the top-notch managers in his office, but let him voice out his thoughts on some sensitive and salient issues in life, you will mistake him for a 16 year old boy! From such, beware!