Last week Thursday, a Lagos
based lawyer, Udeme Odibi was reported to have stabbed her husband to death and
cut off his private part.
Shortly before then, we
gathered that they had a disagreement in which the woman threatened to kill
him. I guess the man knew his wife very well so he was said to have put a
call through to his neighbor, younger sister and his mother about the threat.
For me, this is the high point in this case.
I discovered that we are
just too careful with ourselves to the point that we have lost touch with
realities on one another. When late Otike called those people, what did they do?
Oh, they just advised him to take things easy, let God take control and go to
bed right? Did they step into the matter? Did they call the wife to calm her down? Did they ask
the man to leave the house by all means? Did someone drive in to come pick
the guy at all cost? Did someone call someone that knows someone who could prevail on the wife? Did anyone just raise an alarm? So many questions…..
Many times, people need
a shoulder to lean on but they are being denied because we are just too
engrossed with our lives. So many folks need someone they could be careless and
vulnerable with but are nowhere to be found because we assumed folks have everything in shape. Many times, people come to us with
teary eyes but we are so consumed with our "little issues" that we
hardly notice.
A lot of high blood pressure
cases could have been averted but we are too busy to give or family members, friends, colleagues, neighbours etc the
opportunity to let out what they have bottled up for long. We just mind our
business and do our thing in as much as we are okay, no other thing matters.
When next you notice that
lovely married guy in your space getting unnecessarily withdrawn, please trespass and
ask him questions. Even though you stand the risk of being ignored or rejected,
play your part first. When next you see that married lady coming close to you in a manner
that wasn't her lifestyle, pause and give her attention, it won’t land you on hospital
bed.
The next time you receive a
distressed call from anyone, don't treat it with levity. dont assume he'll be fine. go out of your way to do something. If you can't do anything, cry out
on his behalf. It is better for you to be annoyingly sensitive
and cry out for help on behalf of such rather than keep things till he dies. When next you have a thought about someone, don't procrastinate, it could
be your instinct telling you something. Please visit, call, text, e-mail
or chat to know how he or she is doing.
I know we all have our
individual issues we are battling with but then, we will always have issues and
if we go by that, we won't do anything for each other! with this attitude, a lot of untimely deaths could be obstructed.
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