An Epic Event That Took Place In My Office

July 17, 2017, around 10.30am, I was with my boss in his office reflecting on some of the things that happened the previous week. All of a sudden, we started hearing an uproar from another part of the office. The noise wasn't that of an impending danger because it was a bit uniform, similar to that of a musical voice crescendo. But what could be happening? Trust my nosy nature, I quickly excused myself to go and find out.

Getting there, few people who saw me began to adjust and started talking in a hush-hush voice because they knew I came from the boss. I moved near one of my colleagues and asked what the issue was. Apparently, an e-mail emanated from the Human Resources department caused the "joyful commotion". What was the content of this email? It was to notify the entire office about a forthcoming wedding this month between two of our colleagues in the same office. Wow....it came as a pleasant shock to everybody perhaps being the first time in our organisation but not me because I was privy to some things during my guy's "kurukere" moves.

Really, that wouldn't be a strange thing and I know it will not be a news to a lot of us because it happens everywhere. But you know what really caught my attention about this union? Every single person in the office has got one good thing or the other to say about this young, pretty, kindhearted, gentle, well-mannered and unassuming lady in question! Even her female colleagues testified to the fact that our guy got a good lady to marry. This would be the first time in my life that every single person of about 80 workers would be having good things to say about a lady all through. As I reflected on this, i came up with some qualities which I would like to share with my single ladies especially because it still tells me that what men are looking for in a marriage partner still remains the same. Not only that, faithfulness and good deeds pay a lot.

1. For the purpose of this write up, I will name the lady Aminat and our guy, Dele. Aminat is a very cool headed lady. Times without number, people have stepped on her toes but her reactions were never out of order. "She put body for ground well well......o fara bale."

2. Aminat is a very reserved lady but at the same time very friendly and not boring. When you engage her in conversation or argument, you would definitely enjoy your flow with her but you will never see her play carelessly with any opposite sex in the office. She comports herself in a very modest manner. Go to some organisations and you see how loose some ladies could be with their male colleagues. You even see some married women who are very comfortable with single guys slapping their buttocks at will. Our Aminat has got no record of scandal with anyone!

3. Another testimony about Aminat was that she has got courtesy and respect for everyone. She happens to be a lady who will never get tired of being the one to first say hello to you whether you see her or not. Always ready to help and share her things with you. I personally experienced these things about her.

4. This point shocked me most coming from her female friends at work! She is a very domesticated lady! As "tushed" as Aminat is, there is no type of local soup/food that Aminat doesn't know how to prepare. I am talking of a Lekki babe here o. Asides this, if you meet her washing plate after lunch at work, depending on the timing, Aminat would gladly offer to help you wash without you asking her to do so. I learnt she is the only lady that does that in the whole of my office!

5. In as much as anybody is free to marry who she likes, I doff my cap for her saying "yes" to my very handsome, lively, honest and kindhearted Dele despite the fact that they are in the same office and on the same level earning the same salary. Like I said earlier, this is a Lekki babe who told me she got her international passport processed and delivered to her in less than 48 hours. I know it's no big deal but I just mentioned that so that we can have an idea of where she is coming from. She laid all those ones aside and more to start building her life afresh with a very promising young guy.....she wasn't looking for an already made man.

6. It's most likely that Aminat would have to make the sacrifice and resign her appointment with the organisation. She saw it as a risk worth taking and she is doing it for the man she loves. That's another big lesson.

These and many more made me see reasons why she had a resounding testimony, why a well-trained and focused man went for her. Thank you Aminat for the reassurance that there is still hope for serious minded guys like your guy.

As you both become one tomorrow, 5th of August, I can only wish you two love without end in Jesus name. Wishing you a happy married life. Congratulations my people!

(C) RealityCheck2017

Etiology Of Female Power - A Valentine Poem For Men

Here is a very powerful poem written by my dear friend, Yahaya Balogun from Arizona for the delight of married couples especially the men in this valentine period. Please do enjoy it, and i can assure you that it will definitely ignite something in you. Happy Valentine!!! 

I am a woman with female power
Your beautiful bride, so radiant!
I have used my mother-nature(power)
To achieve my goals.
Power that is carefully crafted
To prepare my nest for your lust.

My nest is fertile with fecund love
It makes you lame and tame.
My beauty makes your brain
To take a French leave

To you love is blind;
Love to me is not blind
It has eyes with vision for night
A clear visual for day.

Your love for me is a temporary insanity
Being cured by our marriage
Oh! My suitor-in-lust.
Love is blind to your best interests

My love for you is far from being insane,
I am anything but fool or blind
To my own interests, I see my wants.

My mother had thought me in her womb
All weapons I need to arrest a man's love
I subsumed myself to unearth you
In the parallel universe

And to all codes I need after my cradle
To make my man my slave-nest
I have your emotional attachment
In my custody

I train my man to cord his feelings insuperably
From my body( lust)
I have conditionally sentenced you
To the prison of love
As long as you crave for my body.

Contrary to norm
You chase me around until I caught you
You are firmly in my grip and confinement
As you have lost your freedom
My nest is for you to dwell
For as long as you lust me.

My own love for you is a smoke
Made with fume of sigh.
I have solid weapons at my disposal.
Lust, love, romance and motherly care
Each is potent with unique purpose
To embellish my nest and tame you.

Lust is an emotional disease,
That metastasizes you to crave for me at any cost
Love is an instrument that cords your feelings, with my smitten-nest
And addicts you to my body(lust)

Romance beclouds your sense of judgement to discern my hanky-panky with you
Motherly care is a marital buffer,
That makes marriage lasts forever.
On our wedding day,
Your smile was naturally authentic
As you danced away ignorantly
To the celebration of your own defeat.

After our nuptial,
As we both dance to your vanquish,
I saw empathy on the faces
Of men who had been married before you.

As I kissed you in the full glare of the crowd,
I soliloquize joyfully to my mind.
That the fool is firmly in my nest-slave.
I can use him the way I want eternally.
The fool has lost his freedom to me
As long as he lusts me

Woe! unto woman with no power to command men.
Woman power is gentle, kind and lovingly mischievous
Women who know how to use their natural power
Rule the (men's) world.
Happy Valentine day to you my naiveté. #RealitywithTID

By: Yahaya Balogun,
      Arizona, USA

                     

Struggling With Early Ejaculation? Please, Read This!

I have heard a lot of definitions about early ejaculation also known as premature ejaculation. The most common among these definitions is that premature ejaculation is seen as the inability of a man to hold ejaculation beyond one minute of sexual intercourse (mainly thrusting). In as much as this is true to an extent, I would want to state categorically that this may not hold for every couple. It would have been preferable that the definition is personalized because some women do get satisfied within one minute of thrusting depending on how creative their husbands have been during foreplay. And it may interest you to discover that some men even get their wives satisfied with just their fingers before penetration occurs. With this, one is forced to ask the benefit of having a sustained erection while your partner has already reached orgasm and just want to be in your arms to relish on the experience. For such, I think it would be wrong to say that their partners experience premature ejaculation!

In order to have a balanced outlook on this topic, Premature ejaculation should best be looked at from a relatively personalised angle and be defined as the inability of a man to sustain ejaculation before the envisaged period (length of time required for his partner to reach orgasm) between himself and his wife which eventually leads to dissatisfaction especially on the part of the wife. There are some methods by which this challenge could be combated, but the most important virtue to have while handling this challenge is discipline; discipline to adhere to the dynamics of the instructions peculiar to the methods knowing fully well that conquering premature ejaculation is not a rocket science. Just as it is with other things in life, the art of overcoming premature ejaculation is learnt and mastered with constant practice which eventually results into perfection. So, if you want to scale through this hurdle, kindly hang on there while we discuss these methods.

Healthy Eating Lifestyle. Our bodies have been configured in such a way that with the right kind of food and lifestyle, it heals in itself and functions properly with little or no medication. Cultivating a healthy eating lifestyle especially consuming fruits that look like the male reproductive organs are natural ways of making you last longer in bed because they aid proper sexual performance for men. Fruits like carrot, cucumber, date seeds, avocado pea, banana and watermelon fall into this category; they increase blood flow, contain amino acids, bromelain which is an enzyme that enhances libido, boost the production of hormones and increase energy level. When these fruits are combined with regular exercises suitable for your health as prescribed by your physician, you are on your way to a great sexual lifestyle.

Mental Control. Most men actually put themselves at a disadvantaged position even before the intercourse by focusing on the excitement that they envisage from ejaculation. To them, sex is all about satisfying themselves through orgasm rather than seeing it as another opportunity to have an intimate time with their spouses, so anxiety builds up in them and this eventually heightens the chances of premature ejaculation. This could be dealt with by trying to discipline yourself to focus on your partner’s satisfaction and also concentrating on those parts of her body that gives you lesser pleasure like the boobs instead of the vagina during intercourse. While you do this, taking your mental focus away from the sensation that you will experience at the tip of your penis will also go a long way to help. Pay less attention to the information that your brain is supplying about the whole show by diverting your thoughts.

Frequent Sexual Activity. How often do you have sex? The more you have sex and ejaculate, the more your chances of having a delayed ejaculation and satisfying your wife. With good diet, regular exercise and right frame of mind, it won’t be a big deal if you ejaculate early in the first round. As a matter of fact, most men don’t last long enough in the first round but where the challenge lies is if you don’t last long in the first round and you are unable to go for the second round which will naturally take longer for you. Aside this, you can’t compare a couple that have sex maybe like thrice in a month with another couple that have sex on the average of thrice in a week. The difference is always there and obvious for the parties concerned.

Kegel Exercise. Have you ever heard of Kegel exercise before? It’s not limited to women alone but a simple routine exercise that men can also do to delay their ejaculation while having sex. You can train yourself ahead of intercourse to master it by deliberately stopping yourself midway while urinating for some seconds before you continue. You can try that till you master it for about three times a day. Then hit your bed, while having intercourse, stop just immediately you feel the sensation to ejaculate and contract the muscles between your scrotum sac and anus (which regulates ejaculation) with the aid of your abdominal muscles as well. That is simply the kegel exercise you can do in the midst of sexual performance when you feel the urge to ejaculate. Contract the muscles in those three areas for about ten seconds by which ejaculation would have been held off then relax the contraction for some time before you continue. You can repeat this process for as many times as you wish to delay ejaculation until you are fully ready to let go. You may not be able to achieve this if you have not actually been practicing it perhaps while urinating which also shouldn’t be for long because of the health implication of holding urine.

Off and On Method. This is an effective but disciplined method of controlling premature ejaculation. It simply requires the man to stop every sexual activity for some 2-3 minutes whenever the urge to ejaculate is building up to relax and resume later. This method is mostly effective if accompanied by a change in sexual position at every point of resumption. If the couples can help it, they should try to avoid or delay using the missionary and the doggy style till when they feel orgasm is possible. On the other way round, rather than go off sexual activity and just wait for few minutes, you or your wife can have the tip of your penis (where the sensation is mostly pronounced) squeezed to make erection go down and when erection goes down, ejaculation will be difficult. While this is done, relax a bit before resumption of sexual activities with a different position. Always repeat this process till your mind is made up to ejaculate.

Decreased Tempo Technique. The excitement created by sex which must have been built up from the creative fore play activities could be tempting to make you rush thrusting. This has a great tendency for encouraging premature ejaculation. The antidote is to reduce the excitement by not rushing it at all. Just be there, be cool and completely lost in it. Slow down the pace with slow deep thrusts. This will decrease how much stimulation your penis is getting while not having to stop intercourse. When you are deep, twisting your hips. This reduces reduce your stimulation.

 

Scrotal Sac Tweak. During intercourse, the scrotal sac that contains two testis shrinks and pulls up when ejaculation is very close. You can stop the ejaculation from happening by using your hand or asking your wife to gently and carefully pull down the contracted scrotal sac from your body. This automatically allows ejaculation to cease for some time while you continue intercourse. You can do this intermittently depending on how long you want the ejaculation delayed.  #RealitywithTID

 

                                                                                                         

 

Do Sex & Fasting Go Together? YES!!! #RealitywithTID

There are so much that have been said about couples’ sexual conduct while fasting especially in this time of the year where we have prolonged days of fasting from different religious assemblies. Some declare 21 days, some 14 days, some even 40 or 50 days. According to 1 Corinthians 7:5, “Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control”. This literarily is believed to mean, anytime there is fasting, sex aka “congo” can’t happen! Kindly pardon my line of thought on this, because I have a slightly different opinion, not as an express instruction from God but as a believer like Paul that has the spirit of God too.

First of all, sex during fasting is as persuaded and agreed by every individual couple. But if we are to go with the bible, apostle Paul asked us to stay away from sex so that we will be able to focus on fasting and prayer but with this clause, “for a short while so that devil won't tempt us”. If you ask me sirs, 21 days, 30 days or 50 days could be too long a period to abstain from sex especially if you are less than ten years in marriage and depending on your sexuality history before marriage. I am pointing this out so that the infidelity that Paul tries to prevent doesn’t happen eventually. However, length of abstinence is a relative issue! Every couple need to figure out among themselves on how long abstinence should be between them.

There are some people, if they want to fast the following day for example, they can't have sex the night penultimate. If they do, they are likely to lose concentration in the fast especially if they did a good job in bed….I mean a good job because the next 24 hours thereafter, they have not recovered from the experience that keeps playing in their heads and that could be distracting. It may even interest you that there had been times some of these people have had to break their fasting before time because they wanted to have a repeat of the pleasure they had the previous night!!! But that was a level in some marriages and I want to believe we have more of such around us.

For some people, they are at a level whereby when they “congo” even if it is 1 a.m. they must get out of bed to eat again irrespective of the size of meal they had for dinner. That was also a level. It may interest you to know that some people after sex feel very weak, and worn out especially those couples who do well over an hour of “congo”. With that kind of length and energy expended, such might need to slow down a bit to be able to conserve their strength and energy levels for the next few days of the fast if it’s one of those long fasts.

Some couples don’t even feel any impact. Congo is as normal for them as any other thing we have around, so they are just good to go. The most important thing is to know what works for you as a couple and what keeps you focused to give both of you maximum result from the fasting. Or what’s the point in fasting for days while your heart is drifted away to something else and your spirit keeps grumbling and waiting for the 30 days to be over? That’s absolutely a waste of time!

But as my understanding grew on some things, I began to see things in a different light which is the core of this write-up. Is it right for you to have sex while fasting? Let me ask you a very sincere question according to the bible passage above; can you decide in isolation to abstain from sex even though you can decide to fast without putting your partner into consideration? NO, you can’t because sex is not only about you, says 1 Cor. 7:3 & 4 but much more about your partner. It therefore means if you can’t decide on your own to go off sex thereby depriving your spouse of the benefits, but you can unilaterally decide that you are going to fast, then I think the wisdom here is that couples can fast and still decide to have sex in between. It's not only possible but it is doable. Hey, according to bible, fasting only entails abstinence from food and at some points, water. There is nowhere bible recommended sex fasting.  So, can Christians have sex while fasting?  In my opinion, it’s up to you and your partner, nothing is cast in stone.  You have to either agree to have sex while fasting or do otherwise depending on what your strength and conviction can accommodate.

Secondly, I decided to combine two spiritual things together which is Sex and fasting and came to a spiritual conclusion as well. Sex is powerful and at the same time spiritual. 1 cor. 6.16, “Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, the two will become one flesh.” Christians are blessed to have a very blunt and practical God that originated sex. Depending on your understanding about sex, I am of the opinion that there wouldn’t have been a better time for sex if not during a fast because of its spiritual implication. For example, if you as a couple is trusting God for something desperately, I think combining sex with fasting (if you can and depending on how you see sex) could bring a speedy result. What a very terrible agreement right? I know it sounds somehow but then.....

How does it happen? Let's assume you are fasting today, you can also “congo” in between before you break it. When the penis is inserted into the vagina, just before you begin to thrust in and out, while the penis still remains strong in there, you both hold hands, pray a prayer of agreement right there. When you finish praying, begin to thrust and do whatever you feel like with each other. When you reach your climax and ejaculate, give thanks and continue your fast. Sex is spiritual, fasting and prayer are spiritual and the three have been combined. It is just like your wife and your mother decide to come in agreement to be praying for you…wow!

And for those who may not be able to handle this, sex can happen after you break in the evening before the following morning. But some people can't handle this because they have got to stay within their levels of strength, grace and understanding; they have not sinned. But for either of the couples to completely go off sex for days and weeks because of fasting is a bit odd.

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Seven People Who Passively Influenced My Life As A Teenager

Four weeks ago, I was having a gist with my son about how adorable and important girls are and also the boundaries that need to be set while relating with them which was being buttressed with the story of Samson in the bible. While the gist was going on, events of my teenage years flashed through my mind. As I began to travel down memory lane, I discovered if I were not Iteoluwakisi’s father, I would have been like a role model to him just the way a number of people were to me years back; they contributed to whatever good I am today. Then this question came up in my mind; aside from what parents can do to train, do we still have role models these days that can positively influence our kids?

This made me appreciate the people (I call them egbons) that God brought my way at one point or the other. Surprisingly, they will be shocked reading this piece because they have no idea what they did. The things I’m about to share may sound petty and miniature to some people but I am the one in the middle of the show and I know how their acts shaped my life. Besides, if we have these set of people in this generation, be rest assured that we can go and sleep with our two eyes closed. Don’t get me wrong, I am not presenting angels to you here, they were never perfect and they had their issues too which some were not really open to me. But the fact remains that I looked up to them and their lives and acts motivated me a lot. I am using this opportunity to say a big thank you to all of them. Please meet my “egbons” as I introduce them one after the other in no particular order.

 
 

Akinkunle Akerele He was the first role model I had and it started right from when I was not yet a teenager in primary school. A very easy-going but firm person who never shouted at me but the firmness in his voice always drove down the message. His house was directly at the back of mine which made it easy to always be in his room almost every afternoon, fiddling with his books and everything on his table. One of the things that shaped me from his lifestyle was his commitment to his studies. As soon as he was back from school, he would eat (likes bread like tomorrow no dey), rest and study. He made me look forward to going to secondary school and imbibe his lifestyle too. I remember having a running battle with my mum because I was bent on going to the same secondary school he was attending but it never happened. It took my father to silence me on that. Part of the motivation he gave me was to promise me a gift if I did very well in my transition examination to secondary school. My name came out as the third on the list of successful candidates and he actually fulfilled his promise. I got a black woven belt and 20 kobo which was a lot of money then! I am sure uncle Kunle has forgotten all these. I would tell him things going on in our house then and I still remember vividly his exact words when I told him my mum had problems with a guy that came to stay with us who happened to be a son to my daddy’s friend. He said in his very calm but firm voice that “Toyin, that’s none of your business. Your mum will sort out herself with your dad and the guy. So go and read for your test”. I didn’t like that type of response because it was like I got an insult for a gossip job, but today I know that was the best anyone could give to a very young and curious boy I was then. Uncle Kunle, you have no idea the impact you have made in my life; you could have capitalized on my naivety and abuse me just like we hear stories these days! I must tell you I owe you part of my success story. Thank you and God bless.

 

Niyi Akerele

 Niyi Akerele & Dayo Omotoye Hmmm...I am going to make this to be two-in-one and talk about these two men at the same time due to the fact that they did virtually the same thing and were in the same class but different arms; form 5A and 5D (Uncle Niyi was in Class 5A being pure science class while Uncle Dayo was in class 5D, which used to be a mixture of both science and technical subjects). I was in JS 1 when I spotted them in their class 4 and was fascinated by their exceptional brilliance and focus. They were the two guys representing the school in quiz competition which I tried to emulate but I couldn’t get to that point because of some powers that be in my set too. The best I could do was to represent my school in inter-school debate. Let me quickly say this that Uncle Niyi was the person who taught me the substitution method of solving simultaneous equation while Uncle Dayo brushed me up in light under Physics. When I realized they sat for G.C.E. in form four and cleared their papers with distinctions except for Uncle Niyi who had F9 in Physics because he was absent for the practical session, I became motivated and made up my mind to do the same thing.

Dayo Omotoye

If they got that result in their fourth year, you can imagine what they got by the time they sat for their real WAEC in form five. It was just a work-over for them. It didn’t stop there, their JAMB results were good, Uncle Dayo got admission into UNILAG to study Electrical/Electronics Engineering while Uncle Niyi was asked to study Industrial Chemistry against Medicine which he opted for. I remember him telling me that he must read Medicine by all means and I was like what a hell is wrong with this bros! To cut the long story short, he wrote JAMB till he was going to 300 level (hope I am right) before he got it. Today he is a successful Medical practitioner outside the country while Uncle Dayo is an engineer turned banker but they influenced my life and I learnt a lot from their focus and tenacity in life. All these attributes of theirs made me sit tight and wanted to be successful academically by all means because it made me stretch myself beyond what I felt I was capable of doing. Thank you and God bless you both.

 

 Kehinde S. Olumo Uncle Kenny, as he is normally referred to till today always had his way around me with words. Each time he talked to me, it's like he was directly addressing my soul because the words would always sink. I can say he deliberately came for me and mentored me as a teenager but how I came in contact with him is what I can’t explain till now. He was one of the people who coached me to have C6 in English when I sat for GCE in SS2. Every week, bros. would ask me to write either an essay, solve a summary or a comprehension exercise from any of the past questions and bring for him to mark. You know what? I dare not evade the assignment for anything in life. Who does that these days free of charge? His cousin that stayed in the same house was in the same class with me and I am not sure he was patient enough to get as much as I got from this man. He would mark, comment and rate me according to the WAEC standard because he was connected with our English teacher then who used to mark WAEC papers, so he had information. Asides these, He was always direct in his approach by sitting me down in his room those days and ask me straight forward questions. He would tell me a lot about girls, the no party and no alcohol sermon if I really wanted to make it in life. For those of you who found it difficult to believe I never tasted alcohol, this is one of the people that catalyzed that decision of mine and I think he deserves to be celebrated. He was the one who counselled me that I had no business attending every inter-house sports competition from other schools. Kai, I am very happy that I didn’t disappoint him. Thank you so much Uncle Kenny for talking distraction out of me!

 

 Gennie Yemi Aina I know this is going to shock the hell out of her and some of my mates but the truth remains she motivated and influenced me positively and that is the truth which no one can tamper with, not even Sister Yemi herself! Even though I was close to quite a number of ladies that were older than me, she was the only one that took steps to go further than what I had expected. Her mum, before she passed on was my mum’s god-mother so I was always going to her house on errands from my mum and that’s where she picked interest in me. I became very close to her and from my observation, I think I was the only stranger she allowed into her room severally! She was very brilliant o, chai and can speak good English! I didn’t like speaking English anytime I was with her because she must pick out something to correct. I remember that it was when I started getting close to her that my love for novels developed. All the James Hardley Chase and Pacesetters novels I read were gotten from her. She made jest of me when I tried to graduate into reading one of her voluminous novels which wouldn’t take her two days to finish but I couldn’t measure up. She was the first person to teach me Organic Chemistry which became my best aspect in Chemistry till I dropped it. One very remarkable impact she made in my life was to always drag me along to OSCAS anytime she was going to read. She got admitted into Unilag to study Biology but would sit for JAMB again because she was bent on studying Medicine too. I learnt how to read for long hours because if she wasn’t through studying, I couldn’t leave! Today, I know she never knew she went this far influencing me positively. At least, she can now understand why I hit the ground running immediately she needs me to do anything for her right from UK! Thank you anti mi, for playing your little part in me, thank you for not abusing and exposing me to negative vices like we have these days and thank you for stretching me beyond my assumed capacity to success!

 

 Bayo Olubimo I think It would be safer to say he was my school father in secondary school. Bros so much took interest in me to the extent that he had weekly time table for coaching me. He taught me Physics, Inorganic Chemistry and Mathematics a lot. Is anyone still conversant with Ababio and STAN Chemistry text books? I was one of the few students that used them for my SSCE in my set. He gave me Ababio but helped me borrow STAN Chemistry from his female cousin who was a set ahead of us in SSCE programme. We were the first set of SSCE in public schools then, so we had no clue of what was ahead but this man went as far as getting me the question papers from the Federal Government College. I duplicated and circulated them among my classmates which we used for practice. After I was done with my exams, he encouraged me to try talk to my parents so that I could be released to do JAMB coaching in the university where he was studying then. He said he wanted me to be in the university environment because according to him, I was a mummy’s boy and as God would have it, I was allowed. Aside all these, his life was a great challenge to me; he was dressing well, had a salient sense of humour and I never saw him with any negative vices. He equally encouraged me to listen to a lot of gospel songs, Panam Percy Paul being his favourite naija gospel singer. Another thing he did was that he was always giving me money for keeps every week. How much? Just 50kobo to N100.00 depending on what he had and that was a whole lot then. I am really grateful. He is a pastor in the US now and once in a while, he still calls me to ask after my welfare. Egbon Bayo, I honour you for the sacrifices you made for my life to be better!!!

 

 Aiyegbusi Franklin Biodun Believe it or not, all through my sojourn in Ikare Akoko, Ondo State, this bros and I were two parallel lines that never met…we never came to a point where we would even exchange greetings. But I had always admired him from the distance for some reasons which I would share here briefly. Though his countenance was never welcoming at all because of his beer-parlor-I-hate-you looks but his personality thrilled me at least with the limited information I had about him. He was already in higher institution by the time I was in secondary school and whenever he came home for break, I would always see him around; he would stroll out with his peeps almost every evening. One sunny afternoon, I was having a gist with some senior ladies where I was taking afternoon lectures and his gist came up too about a girl that was having crush on him and wasn’t even matured about it. They started making jest of the girl then because bros wouldn’t give a damn about her! Kai!!! I became more interested because I never knew any handsome guy could be in the university and still be shunning girls. Prior to that, I was saving my own escapades till I get to the higher institution. I became bothered but began to respect him. I wasn’t considering if his rejection was because the girl in question wasn’t his 'specs' or not but I was just wowed that at least he was making a statement with his principle. I began to aspire to get to higher institution too. I became more dedicated and I remember that was the point I started revising JAMB and WAEC past questions so that I could gain admission on time and be doing shakara for girls like Uncle Biodun! Secondly, there was this evening I went to visit Taiwo and Kehinde Akerele (they are the twin sisters to Uncle Niyi Akerele I mentioned above) and I was sharing with them while escorting me home how frustrated I was with sciences and we bumped into him around St. James’ School. He didn’t even know I was the one with the complaint but he just cut into our conversation and said if you do not like what you are doing, just try and manage to pass your papers first then find an equilibrium perhaps with social sciences. Till today, I have those words on my head verbatim and I have to use this opportunity to let him know that was part of my saving grace. I truly found an equilibrium and I am grateful! So amazing how someone you never spoke to modeled you in a way! Thank you bro!!!

The stories I related above are the abridged versions of what happened. And let me ask again do we have such people around today that youths can look up to and be motivated to succeed? I am celebrating these people today but can someone celebrate you this way because of how you have positively affect his or her life? Thank you.

 
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