Pornography! They Say It Helps Sex Get Better In Marriage, But I Say It Does More Harm Than Good.

Pornography means sexually explicit materials like films, magazines, writings, photographs or other materials that are sexually explicit and intended to cause sexual   arousal.

Although, quite a number of people that have been involved in porn materials claim that it helps them spice up their sexual lives in marriage. Though no other reason has been given apart from this but the truth is that the disadvantages to marriage obviously outweighs any advantage you could ever think of. According to science, porn trains brains to release more endorphins than normal in response to an overload of sexual stimuli. After a while, depending on how long the brains have been on pornography, they develop a need for higher dose in order to achieve the same arousal. This apparently leads to more hardcore porn and higher quantities of it. It does not only limit your ability to become aroused at all, but also can limit your dopamine receptors in general, causing you to become more anxious, less social, and perhaps depressed.

Moreover, the younger you were when you began watching porn, the worse the effects would be on you. For the married, which is what I am concentrating on here, it may seem helpful even now, but I’m sure that couples who are into pornography will have a price to pay for their casual acceptance.

Below are some reasons why I would not encourage couples to go into pornography for any reason:

Ø  Pornography warps your attitudes and values! It has a dramatic effect on how you view and present women, sexual abuse, and sex in general. It also makes you develop appetite for more deviant and bizarre type of pornography which has a tendency to make you lack confidence in your marriage. It gives you the impression that sex is unrelated to love, commitment or marriage. If you get into pornography for too long, there is every tendency for you to begin to see women as valueless, ordinary tool to be used anytime to satisfy one's lust and not respected. It skews your perception of what beauty is and gives you unreasonable standards for sex with your wife/husband.

Ø  Porn and sexual abuse! The habitual consumption of pornographic materials can result in a diminished satisfaction with mild forms of porn and a correspondingly strong desire for more deviant and violent material. Abusers also use it on their victims or use it to arouse children. “This person is enjoying it, so will you.”

 

Ø  Porn destroys major sex life! Studies and observations have shown that viewing    pornography diminishes couples’ attraction to and satisfaction with their real-life partners. I remember a friend who suspected her husband was back into porn because he retarded in making love to her. And there’s another porn-addicted young man I met sometimes ago, who discovered that sex with his wife was only exciting when he imagined they were being videoed.

Ø  Pornography has a way of encouraging extra marital affairs! The reason is that when couples, especially the man, gets into pornography, his expectations become very high and unrealistic in the bedroom forgetting the fact that things were not really the way they seemed in the material. Quite a number are on drugs to go that far, so It becomes worse when his partner wouldn't be able to live up to his wild expectation in order to fulfill his insatiable crave; he could want to try another object out of marriage.

Ø  Addiction! The experience of sexual arousal can be intense with pornography, and as a result, an addiction can be very easily formed. Always trying to get “another fix” reinforces a habit that becomes tough to conquer. Some people get addicted to due to the fact that after a certain time, they have a hard time getting away from it because they compare it to real life encounters and always feel let down so they have got no choice than to fall back on porn images as respite. Some years ago, a study of 932 sex addicts in America shows 90% men and 77% women reported that porn was significant for their addiction.

     Another disadvantage of pornography under Addiction is that it could cause financial burden on an individual or the couple. This can be true for anything in life though.

Ø  Mirage! The actors and actresses in porn are paid to create an aura of enjoyment and satisfaction even when it is not pleasant leading to the assumption that merely walking into a room could automatically spark off something. This can cause frustration and violence without regard to love in homes.

 

Ø  Porn doesn’t satisfy!  Repeated exposure to pornography not only results in a        diminished sexual arousal but also a decreased satisfaction with the partner and his or her sexuality. Medically speaking, prolactin is one of the chemicals that flows after lovemaking and leaves us contented and more attached to our partner but this could be inhibited where pornography is a lifestyle.

      In a study at the University of Paisley, some guys were made to have sex with their partners while others masturbated with the aid of porn materials. It was observed that   prolactin was present in the bloodstream of the guys who had made love in excess of about 400% than those who masturbated to porn.

 

Ø  It Destroys Intimacy! Within the context of marriage, sex is one of the awesome ways for couples to connect emotionally and physically. It has the ability to provide true intimacy, joy, and sexual satisfaction! Husbands who are into porn keep their addiction a secret from their wives and vice versa. Over a period of time, the results are guilt and isolation because he or she retreats emotionally and finds himself or herself in a vacuum because intimacy being shared with each other has been lost and discovered that pornography initially excites but doesn’t sustain.

     Moreover, it makes your spouse to withdraw from your relationship because he receives instant gratification from his fantasies. Especially when couples have misunderstanding with one another, the one on porn lifestyle might not make any substantial effort to resolve it on time due to the fact that either of the partners already have something to fall back on. This attitude could make it difficult for either party to see sex as a loving form of communication.

 

Ø  Pornography cracks your self esteem as a woman! When your husband views porn, you may feel disrespected, take it personal and believe that you aren't good enough for him. This can create a serious hassle in your marriage.

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