Monday 29 April 2013

Something To Think About For The Week

I have come to realise that marriage, though could be complicated depending on how you choose to go about it but at the same time, has a high potential to still be worked out with your spouse if you choose to. For me, I think everything boils down to the choices you make....yes, your choices!
 
May I ask, what choices are you making in our marriage to make sure things work out? What choices have you made about your hubby’s insensitivity and irresponsible acts? What choices have you made about your wife’s lack of respect, lack of understanding and lack of skills in her roles? Have you made a choice to work it out by all means or rather throw caution to the wind and call it quit? Remember, we all face challenges in our homes but only the brave stay and fight.
Quite a number of the divorce cases we have these days are attributed to the choices people make such as lazy attitude towards their spouses, choice of words while angry, the choice to stay put or quit at every silly reason.But come to think of it, do you think your spouse is actually the worst individual you have ever come across in your entire life time? I think this is something to think about for the week! Hey, I know there are exceptions but is yours really one? Some people, before marriage have had more terrible, uncultured and annoying brothers, sisters, cousins, aunts, uncles etc than their present spouses yet they have successfully put up with their idiosyncrasies, accepted them for who they were and never contemplated disowning them.
Likewise, some of us have got very touchy, irascible and hostile bosses, colleagues at work, landlords and landladies yet for the sake of our jobs and accommodation, we never resigned from that job, we have stayed in the same house for over twenty years just because there is something at stake. In our marriages too, let us all realise that we have got a lot of things at stake if we fail to decide to move on with our spouses when issues come up. If we could move on successfully for years with those that are not our spouses, then we should be able to do better with our spouses and keep our marriages.
Think of that person in your life that you have had to put up with despite all odds and modify that same attitude in your marriage.
                                                                      
                                                                                             (C)rwnomoreloss 2013


6 comments:

Anonymous said...

Nice one,is really cool.

Anonymous said...

Yes O!

ChiomaNkem said...

Hmmm... Its true sha, there are things we tolerate in people but can't stand it in our spouse. Really something to think about dis week and coming month.

Anonymous said...

On point. Most time we don't know the value of our marriages hence the way we treat our spouse. Making up our minds to work things out, work on ourselves and b persistent in loving our spouses. So on point!I remember the time my hubby was unfaithful and the holy spirit tells me to love him more , praying for grace to love him more. I didn't appreciate it then but today I am the envy of those around m!though not easy but I was ble to see things in a diff way .

Unknown said...

Thanks for sharing this with us ma. Am i permitted to share this your comment on facebook to probably encourage those who might be going through the same thing?

Anonymous said...

Hmmmmm,true talk my brother! It is well. Though its easier said than done. May His grace be sufficient for us.