5 Signs That Depict Your Partner Could Be Porn Addicted

It could be pretty difficult to lay your hands on what could seem to have been the problem but the bottom line is that your relationship is stressed for no just cause. There are recurring problems in your marriage which you can’t figure it out. Though the signs of porn addiction are quite slippery and difficult to nail, some of them even have similar features to other vices like extra marital affairs, drug addiction etc but if you are noticing traces of these under listed signs in your partner, I think he or she owes you some concrete explanations." It could be pretty difficult to lay your hands on what could seem to have been the problem but the bottom line is that your relationship is stressed for no just cause. There are recurring problems in your marriage which you can’t figure out. Though the signs of porn addiction are quite slippery and difficult to nail, some of them even have similar features to other vices like extra marital affairs, drug addiction etc but if you are noticing traces of any of these under listed signs in your partner, I think he or she owes you some concrete explanations.

Quickly, let me make it clear that the objective of this write-up is not for you to discover anything and be judgmental or assume the position of an accuser against your spouse but rather, it's aimed at you looking for possible ways of giving him or her the necessary helping hand so that your marriage could work better. If anything is discovered, it could even point out to a subtle fact that there's something you're not likely doing right (though not necessarily) or you could even be wrong altogether in your observations and assessments. So, there is need for you to handle this with patience and due carefulness. Remember, it's your marriage, “as you lay your bed, you lie on it,” says the adage          
 
1. Lack of interest in sex: This is the sign that would most likely get you worried first! Does your husband or wife now lack interest in sex or indifferent to it? Is he or she now sexually unresponsive? Most times, you are the one initiating sex which you don’t even enjoy because your partner is not just interested….there is an emotional gulf while making love!  Another under lining problem in this category is the fact that your partner could be having trouble becoming sexually aroused. For example, there could have been a lot of extra effort being made from your part to stimulate him or her to get turned on or have an orgasm. The reason is not far-fetched, his or her mind is used to getting stimulated by porn so he or she can’t just get it off in a jiffy.                                       

 

2. Withdrawal. Is he/she withdrawing or dodging activities from you and even the family? Most often, people in this mess have unexplained absences and inability to account for excessive amount of time spent especially on the internet coupled with the fact that they suddenly have a changed bedtime routine.                             
 
3. Unethical sexual acts. Sex is peculiar to different couple so we may really not be able to generally rubber stamp what is ethical or not here. However, sex is expected to be interesting and creative for both. It gets better on a daily basis spontaneously and gradually in as much as any of the parties is not stingy with his or her body. Sexual acts become unethical when things that either of the parties is not comfortable with or not in agreement with are (forcefully) introduced.  When your spouse suddenly goes wild on bed, it could be an indication that he or she has been feeding his imagination with some wild scenes as well. Is your partner pressurising you to engage in sexual activities that are either physically or emotionally uncomfortable for you? Is he or she now rougher during sex? Has his or her sexual taste suddenly changed? Is he or she treating you like an object and not someone he or she loves? Is he or she making some insensitive sexual comments which embarrass you?
 
4. Ambiguity. When you query him or her about your suspicion on pornography, you are most likely to get unsatisfactory, vague, defensive and hostile answers yet you are finding evidence of lying and porn materials. And when you hardly can make out any sense from his answers, then there is something to watch out for.
 
5.   Secrecy. Is your partner unnecessarily secretive lately? Is he or she maintaining a private e-mail address unknown to you? Is he or she uncomfortable on the system when at times or most times you are around? Does he quickly close any of the pages when you suddenly appear or turns the monitor away from your direction? Does he get his or her phone pass-worded without proper explanation? Are you finding it difficult to assess the web browsing history because it’s been deleted?

Now, tell me, how do you feel? I still have two more topics to cover on this menace by next week; Reasons why your spouse is into Pornography and Healing process for porn addiction. Before then, if you have discovered any of these signs in your spouse, kindly take things cool. Being pushy and quarrelsome won’t move either of you anywhere on this.

Thank you.

                                      

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