This Is From Me To All The Women!!!

I am compelled to use this opportunity and address the women on some vital and sensitive issues that have been bothering me lately. In as much as I have a soft spot for over the years because of their roles, I equally need them to them to understand that there is a part of me that is not just happy with them. Honestly, I am not impressed!

Why is it so difficult to get through to women and help them in some instances which are mostly salient, sensitive and destructive? You  are the vulnerable ones in most cases and your issues come so strong with attitudes that are not welcoming from men, but must you join hands with us to completely run you down till you become what you were not originally created for?

We all know you are carved-out to submit to the men in your lives of which you are under obligation to do if you must enjoy your marriage. However, that submission has a boundary if you ask me...yeah, it does! God never instructed you to submit to and harbor a pedophile of a husband; God never sees your submission in the light of defending and excusing a sexually promiscuous husband who chases anything in skirt including your daughters and your blood sisters. The last time I checked, your creator never informed you that your obedience to your husband is absolute to the point that if he is making you a mini porn star, or a punching bag, it is still very much okay!

Pardon me, this write-up is not a wholistic view of what women are not doing right but an objective assessment and caution on realizing who they are and what they are not in life so I may not really be able to say what is expected of me as a natural African man. This literarily puts me in a situation to be tongue-lashed even by women (which doesn’t bother me) but before you start doing that, I wish to let you know that my intention is not for you to disrespect your husbands neither am I supporting women neglecting and swop their roles, rather the intention is to let you know that there are some things you are taking too far all in the name of the weaker vessel syndrome. I have two examples to share with you which could make you relate better with my line of thought.

Sometimes ago, in this city of Lagos, a lady was getting married to a man who was reported to have still been legally married to another woman as claimed by reports. Despite this other woman's painful groans with her children from abroad, this new lady still walked down the aisle with her man and I don’t think any of the women NGOs or organizations came to even look into what was going on let alone condemning it if found true and neither did anybody stand up to petition the institution that conducted the wedding.

Moreover, very recently, another colleague of yours was said to have been asked to masturbate by her husband while he watched her and recorded with a camera phone or whatever device was used. As gullible as she was, she obeyed or submitted (as the case may be) and the so called hubby uploaded the video on an international porn site (as claimed by a lot of commentators on social media) yet the women in this age could not deem it fit to even step in! If this is true, what sort of a man would do that to a woman...definitely, a beast!!!

Many of you have men in your lives that are something else; they push you beyond limits; they turn you to punching bags at the slightest provocation; some force you to watch pornography and later get you into terrible and bizarre sexual acts against your will; some of you even witness your men bring home other ladies while some of you have hubbies that sleep with your daughters yet you keep mute and still stay glued to such men all in the name of headship and for better or worse! The worst aspect of all these is that when family members, colleagues, friends or neighbors get a wind of what is going on and want to genuinely help, you practically shut them out, giving no further information. What is wrong with you women? Why is it so difficult to help and get through to you? You are not only destroying yourselves but the generations to come after you because you allow these men to reproduce their likes that will come back and terrorize your children later.

I am sure your ability is far beyond your docile state. You are empowered to help and build but not aid and abet in things that could destroy. Women, enough of your cheap ranting on internet while you still go ahead and cover up the culprits in your homes. Where is your power? Where is your wisdom? What happened to your influence? What trampled on your self-esteem? I want to see you stand up and challenge what is not supposed to be imposed on you. Use your NGO avenues to supervise how the pedophiles, abusers, rapists, your bedroom porn managers etc would go to jail for lack of control. I need the women to start talking down on so many inappropriate things.

I call on all the female NGO pioneers, the pastors’ wives, all female ministers and female pastors. I am beckoning on all the alhajas and the wives of the chief imams to come out and start talking and fighting against what they condemn in churches and mosques. How about all the highly placed women in the society? You are occupying those positions because of times like these so come out and start challenging some of these terrible acts. I need to see more than your outward beauty, it is not only about your fashion sense or your career or about your money but I need to hear more than the noise you just make on radio and TV stations.

Please act!!!

 

(C) Rwnomoreloss 2014