Marriage Is Not All About The Will Of God (3)

Ladies, let me use this opportunity to talk to you. Going by God’s design right from the foundation of the earth, a lady’s fulfillment is wrapped around her husband’s purpose in life. God said He would make man a helper suitable for his needs which points to the fact that every man has got a peculiar need in life that only his babe (for those that should marry) could help him handle. And as you are playing your role as a helper, you are also deriving personal fulfillment. It therefore means that you have to get hooked to a man that understands his purpose in life, who is not occupying another man’s territory. I am talking about a man that is original in his assignment because he has taken time to search it out.

It’s appalling to discover that some ladies have been in “serious” relationships for over 24 months yet they can’t articulate what the guys’ principles and values are. They don’t even know the most important thing in life to the guys…this is like threading on a dangerous path. The greatest evil you can do to yourself is to walk into a relationship whereby the supposed head is so clueless and lackadaisical about cogent aspects of his life. Don’t forget, if he misses that portion, you are likely not to get it right as well because you will likely be giving wrong form of help in a wrong direction or a right help in a wrong direction. 

Ladies, even when you are so sure that God told you that guy is your husband, if you find out that he’s so clueless about his focus in life and not willing to have direction, hey, yank that thought off your system and look elsewhere, except you have got no meaning to your own life as well. The reason for this is not far-fetched; you could be so sure of your error and think God is the one talking but in the real sense of it, God never told you anything! This happens mostly because we walk in the vanity of our minds a lot. 

Secondly, when you are caught up in this “God told me” syndrome, don’t consider your side alone; try putting the other party into consideration by asking yourself two very important questions which are: Has God told the other guy too as a form of confirmation? Not the kind of self-induced confirmation that you initiated by ministering yourself into the mind of the guy on consistent basis, which doesn’t make it genuine any longer. Don’t just stop at what you were told but go a step further and find out what information the other guy is working with. And, it’s very crucial for you to ask despite the fact that God has spoken (according to you) if the guy is ready to obey? Is he ready to pursue destiny with all seriousness? You know he has a choice to make. It’s not everybody that God speaks to end up obeying. Don’t get it twisted, there is a difference between having somebody who doesn’t have a focus right now but has a teachable heart to learn and grow up and someone who could be clueless too but never ready to learn and is not even interested. From such, I will advice you don’t risk it but keep a distance because God is not an author of confusion.

The same thing goes for the man. Back in the beginning, it was Adam’s assignment (purpose or vision) that necessitated a helper being manufactured for him. Young man, you have to first sort out yourself to know what your assignment in life is for you to be able to know the kind of help you will require in carrying it out. Understanding your purpose in life is the starting point to getting what the will of God is in Marriage. Most men go into marriage relying only on the will of God when they have not even been able to pray through to get a direction in life. How can you just jump into God speaking to you when you are not even used to it? Attitudes like this make people end up having mismatches in marriage! 

                                                                                                      (C) rwnomoreloss 2012