Reality Check with 'Toyin Idowu: Singles, You've Got No Excuse!

Sometimes ago, a brother got married in my former church to a sister (didn't see her) but was told is pretty. This brother, is not someone people associate with really. Few that do, do so because they have no choice than to just give him attention because he is someone you can refer to as an invalid.

When he talks, you have to strain your ears to hear about 40% of what he's saying and then now use your common sense to deduce his information.Apart from this, when he talks, saliva flows (not drops) from his mouth which puts him at a disadvantage with people as well.

Besides, he has difficulty with walking from when he was a child which makes him to be using walking stick. Due to his condition, a lot needs to be done for him like washing, water for bathing (not sure if he showers all by himself) and so on. Really invalid!

But despite all these, do you believe that this brother was determined to get married and he actually did some months ago? I know what is coming to your mind now but let me tell u, i dont care how he or his family went about it but the issue and the lesson here is that HE GOT MARRIED AGAINST ALL ODDS! He never allowed his situation to stop him from achieving his aim!

So, may i ask you tall/average height, dark, handsome with side burns or whatever what your issues are? Is it not the same God the two of you are serving and are praying to for the same purpose? Can't you see you have lost track of a very good principle that could deliever your miracle into your hands? Let me tell you this, for as many unmarried that desire and choose to marry in the next 12 months, God almighty will back up their decisions with grace and make it happen for them at all cost.

Yes, it can happen! No reason whatsoever for you not to join the league of the married people in your area and start a different life entirely.

I know one of the greatest challenges you're contending with and it is FEAR! Fear sets in because you have read and heard a lot of negative stories about wives giving their husbands tough time and vice versa. Some of you didnt even read but you witnessed what your dad went through with your mum, for some of you, it's a close friend or an auntie or uncle that has got one very terrible experience or the other to share about marriage. All these have made you to be exercising great & unnecessary caution borne out of fear. But may i ask you; have you not been going through challenges in your life before now? Is your boss not giving you an unimaginable stress at work yet you've spent 5 years working under him? For some of you, it's your landlady stressing you and this is your 10th year in her house! Some of you, it's your step parents or half brothers/sisters formenting problems for you but still maintain your relationship with them! May i put it to you that if you can conveniently manage your relationship with those tigers and tigeresses out there, then you can do same in your marriage because man will forever be a man and a lady is also a lady in and out just go learn their ways.

And who says you will even get married to a troublesome partner in the first place? What even gives you the impression that you will be managing crisis in your relationship? For the fact that some people close to you have stories of woe to tell about their partners doesnt mean yours will follow suit. Please stop picking faults in every potential husband/wife around you and start treating guys/ladies well. Everybody has got one fault or the other in his or her life but God is in the business of cleaning up.

You cant continue handling this most important aspect of your life with fear. You continue this way, you'll still get completely messed up in marriage at the end of the day because bible says there is no fear in love but perfect love casts out fear. Since love is an integral part of marriage, if you are now substituting it with fear, you can predict the result yourself.

No excuse! I pray that God will settle every desire of a good marriage partner in Jesus name this year.

No excuse!